Pirkei Avot 4:27
רַבִּי אוֹמֵר אַל תִּסְתַּכֵּל בַּקַנְקַן אֶלָא בְּמַה שֶׁיֵשׁ בּוֹ.
יֵשׁ קַנְקַן חָדָשׁ מָלֵא יָשָׁן, וְיָשָׁן שֶׁאַפִילוּ חָדָשׁ אֵין בּוֹ
Rabbi taught:
Do not look at the flask but at its contents.
You can find a new flask with old wine and an old flask which does not hold even new wine.
Part of what has made human beings the most successful species in the history of our planet is our ability to learn from experience. When faced with a new situation, a new problem, even a new person, our brains instantly compare what is presented with what we have known or seen in the past. Experience is a tremendous tool. It helps us avoid danger and see opportunities. But using experience requires us to make assumptions and when we apply these assumptions to other people based only on first impressions, we often make grave mistakes.
Appearances are deceiving. You cannot understand a person’s abilities by looking at his clothes, you cannot know a person’s heart by seeing what sort of car she drives, nor assess the content of a character by the color of the skin.
It’s easy to make assumptions. How simple life would be if we could tell everything about the inside by looking at the outside! Jewish tradition and teaching requires more. We must look past the elegance of the label and remove the thin foil around the bottle’s neck. We must pull the cork, inhale deeply and taste a full measure.
When we focus on the contents instead of the package, when we approach others with an open heart and mind and without prejudice, we begin to understand that the other, both stranger and friend, were created, b’tzelem elohim, in the image of God. And when we go beneath the exterior of dusty glass or shiny polished silver, who knows what inner zeeskeit, sweetness, we may find?
